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Monday, May 24, 2010

Law or Love?

I’ve heard many people say, “God does not break or go against His own law!” First, the Mosaic laws were not given to God; they were given by God for man’s well being. God is not subject to anyone or anything. Here are a few examples of God “breaking” his own laws or approving when they were broken:

God made the Sabbath for man, so he would rest and cease from his labor, and be restored for the days ahead, and enjoy what his labor had brought him. Men turned it into a burden by making the keeping of it more important than the man it was made for. Jesus said about the Sabbath:

Mt. 12:10 – 12 And behold, there was a man who had a withered hand. And they asked Him, saying, "Is it lawful to heal on the Sabbath?"--that they might accuse Him. Then He said to them, "What man is there among you who has one sheep, and if it falls into a pit on the Sabbath, will not lay hold of it and lift [it] out? Of how much more value then is a man than a sheep? Therefore it is lawful to do good on the Sabbath."

Jesus was very clear about the Sabbath being made for man. As soon as the reason for keeping the Sabbath started destroying the person it was meant to help, the person became more important than the law (keeping the “rules”). This is always true. Any law that God made, was made with us in mind, for our protection and well being, but many have turned the keeping of the law into the proof of our righteousness, instead of the lawgiver being our righteousness.

Do we really think that we earn the position of standing before the Lord God Almighty in holiness by keeping the rules? By our own “righteousness or right-ness”? Doesn’t Scripture in Isaiah call our righteousness “filthy rags” and abominable to God?

In Matthew Jesus gave a personal example of man’s need being more important than the keeping of law:

Mt. 12:1 – 5 At that time Jesus went through the grain fields on the Sabbath. And His disciples were hungry, and began to pluck heads of grain and to eat. And when the Pharisees saw it, they said to Him, "Look, Your disciples are doing what is not lawful to do on the Sabbath!" But He said to them, "Have you not read what David did when he was hungry, he and those who were with him: how he entered the house of God and ate the showbread which was not lawful for him to eat, nor for those who were with him, but only for the priests? Or have you not read in the law that on the Sabbath the priests in the temple profane the Sabbath, and are blameless?

People and their well being always come before the law. This follows through to every part of our lives, including marriage. God made marriage as protection (especially for the children), enhancement and enjoyment for people. This relationship that was made by God as an enhancement for each of the partner’s wellbeing has become a prison for some, which it was never meant to be. What happens when the relationship is only a shell? What about when there is no love and the “cleaving” in Gen. 2:24 (Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.) never took place? It is neither fulfilling for us or what God meant it to be. Just as when the keeping of the Sabbath became destructive to man, man’s (or even an animal’s, as seen in Mt. 12:10-12) wellbeing superseded the keeping of the Sabbath. When a marriage becomes destructive instead of succoring or nourishing, than the person or persons become more important than the covenant of marriage. Because, in the first place, the tenets of the commitment or covenant were never fulfilled, which makes (if we are talking law) the commitment or covenant void.

When a law or covenant has become destructive to the person it was sent to uphold, things will change. Another example of this kind of change is in Acts when Peter was given a vision,

Acts 10:10-15 - Then he (Peter) became very hungry and wanted to eat; but while they made ready, he fell into a trance and saw heaven opened and an object like a great sheet bound at the four corners, descending to him and let down to the earth. In it were all kinds of four-footed animals of the earth, wild beasts, creeping things, and birds of the air. And a voice came to him, "Rise, Peter; kill and eat." But Peter said, "Not so, Lord! For I have never eaten anything common or unclean." And a voice [spoke] to him again the second time, "What God has cleansed you must not call common."

Here God made the salvation (which means to save, keep safe and sound, to rescue from danger or destruction) of people (Cornelius’ household specifically and Gentiles in general) more important the continuance of the law given in the Old Testament as seen in Lev. 11:41 & 42:

'And every creeping thing that creeps on the earth [shall be] an abomination. It shall not be eaten. Whatever crawls on its belly, whatever goes on [all] fours, or whatever has many feet among all creeping things that creep on the earth--these you shall not eat, for they [are] an abomination.

On top of all of that, Jesus came and fulfilled the law. Mt. 5:17 says:

Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill (to do what is necessary to complete or bring something to an end) them.

That is why Paul says:

1 Cor. 10:23 - All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify.

Jesus left us with two commandments:

1) Believe in Him

2) Love one another

John 13:34

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

John 14:1

Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.

1 John 3:23
And this is his (God's) commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.

These are the only things that have to be done by us, and even with these the Lord will give us help when we ask. We seem to have taken the Jewish laws and given them a Jesus sticker. Meaning, we still have to abide by them (or at least the ones that we think are good) and then ask Jesus to help us in our endeavors to keep them. Aren’t we making His death of no consequence? Didn’t Jesus say, “It is finished”? Why are we so insistent on laws and rules? Is it our own will and righteousness that is required, or His?

Rom. 8: 1-4

There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh (our righteousness), but according to the Spirit.

For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death. For what the law could not do in that it was weak through the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, on account of sin: He condemned sin in the flesh (our righteousness), that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us who do not walk according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

God, in His mercy and grace sent us the Holy Spirit to be in us, what we are incapable of being.

John 14:26 - But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.

So the question is, why do we try and add our own righteousness to Christ’s? Isn’t his enough? I’ve heard all my life, “That isn’t a good witness to others!” when my or someone else’s behavior doesn’t fit within the Christian sub-culture’s definition of acceptable. I started thinking, “Witness of what?” Would it be of Christ’s mercy and love, or my own “righteousness”? The accepted behavior is only pretend, because it is not a part of who I am, so I am being false. Is pretending really what Christ wants from me? Or is it dependence on His righteousness, and not my own? I’m not saying that bad or unloving behavior is good, I’m saying that behavior, does not equal righteousness or get us in any more of a right standing with God. The question always follows “So we can do anything we want?” Well, yes, but it would be really stupid to do things that are harmful to us or to those we love. Jesus’ sacrifice has covered our sins, but sorry to say, there may still be earthly consequences to pay for the choices we make. Like Paul said in 1 Cor 6:12 -

All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.

And again in 1 Cor 10:23 - All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify.

So, using a question that Francis Schaffer asked, “How then shall we live?” By standards that were man-made, or by the law of love? The wonderful thing about Christ is that He loves us no matter what; He has an unconditional love for us that never ends. It is our choice, law or Love. I choose Love.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

God honors obedience!! Sometimes we make choices in our lives that we regret later, but we can't go back without hurting others and denying promises that we made to God and other people. I believe that God wants us to keep our promises to Him and others even when it hurts and it's not convenient and it doesn't make us happy. God doesn't give up on us - He doesn't want us to "give up" on each other when things don't turn out the way we planned or the way we hoped. God gave you a gift in your first spouse - don't give Him His gift back. He didn't make a mistake 30+ years ago when he gave you the gift of a husband. I believe that God designed marriage to make us holy, not just to make us happy!! I'm praying for you!!!

pammydawn said...

Regarding the comment from an "anonymous". I wish I could talk to her/him. It is obvious that they know nothing about my former marriage and the continual unfaithfulness that occurred. I am willing to share my side with anyone who wants to know. But sadly, most people just want to judge, not really be informed.

Anonymous said...

What you are "preaching" is MORAL RELATIVISM. Its very convenient for us humans to find scripture to back up our reason for serving our selves rather than God by eliminating OTHER very important scripture, and this is exactly what this blog is doing. These statements are deception, and a horrible twisting of scripture. I know that you, Pam, know better than this. Infedility does not justify infedility. God does NOT condone having an affair on your spouse, and to think that it can be justified by scripture is clear indication that you are being seduced by the enemy! To allow him to have that much power over your thoughts is a scary place to be. In addition, I am horrified that you, being a FORMER spiritual leader who many looked up to, would go public with this twisted version of God's teachings. If you're in a time of being led astray, that's one thing. But to openly try to convince others of your beliefs (which only serve to justify your own wrong actions) is terrible. I pray for you, that God would bring you back under His wings and back into His truth. There are spiritually appropriate ways to deal with problems in a marriage, and running off to another man is not one of them.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous, you are right on.

Anonymous said...

It seems best to not write publicly about your personal issues. This situation has wounded so many people...mostly the children involved.Do not try to justify your actions through scripture. Live your life, take your lumps like everyone else and leave God out of it.

adoptionsforall said...

Wow, there is a whole lotta judgin' going on here! If all you "anonymous" people are so RIGHT, then why do you remain anonymous? I mean, if you have a righteous gospel to preach then why are you ashamed of it?

Here's the deal: When the Bible says in Matthew 7:

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others,you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
(BTW: this was JESUS talking!)

This does not mean that on "Judgment Day" you will have to answer for this (although you may...) It means that you will be judged by others with that very same ruler that YOU are using right now to judge Pammy.

I know this because I am an experienced (and recovering) JUDGE! I pointed the finger of MY righteousness at many people for many things over the years and I can tell you with confidence - that scripture is very very true! I have been judged many times over with the same stinkin' ruler that I used.

Nobody is saying you have to agree with what has taken place in the past few months with Pam and Howard. Nobody is even saying you have to hear the truth about it (although if you knew the WHOLE truth, you may change your tune.

All I am saying are these two things:

1.) Judge not
2.) The truth will set you free (from having to be in the seat you are sitting in right now.)

I would LOVE to know what all of you "Anonymous" judges do with the above scripture...how do you justify what you are saying? If you really believe what you are saying, then you will be able to answer me. Don't give me any Pharisee-babble about what SHE has done....what will YOU do with the scripture?

(Hint: Jesus said, "He who is without sin among you, let HIM cast the first stone...)

NOT "anonymously" but VERY sincerely,
Cindie - (Pam's sister)

Anonymous said...

It is not about judging or sinning or even not wanting to leave a real name when we type.

It is about the fact that when pam left she did not just leave her husband, she left her children and her friends.

I know I have forgiven her but the realization is that although she may only be speaking of her ex-husband when she is blogging she does not just refer to him but to her "old or past life" this involves her children and many friends that looked up to her.

So to read her blog and she how much "hate" comes through when she speaks of her time here it is hard to read and very hurtful.

Pam you have left us we know this. no one disagreed with why you left, only HOW you left. so in the future maybe you should blog only about your new life and stop posting things about the past. It might make you feel better but for the rest of us it hurts.

You are a good sister for sticking up for Pam. yet if she does not want people to respond to what she writes then dont blog. and for those that have issuse with Pams blog stop reading it, if it upsets you so much.

adoptionsforall said...

Thank you, Anonymous, for proving my point. Not only did you prove the point of not really believing what you had said earlier, by continuing to remain anonymous, but you illustrated quite a few things that I have thought all along.

I must address a couple of things.

1.) If you hear hate coming through what Pammy says, then you really don't know her AT ALL. Now, I could see if people said that about me or a variety of other people, but Pammy has NEVER, EVER exhibited hatred in all of the years she has been breathing (that's how long I have known her.)

2.) I'm really tired of hearing people parrot "it's HOW she left" and frankly, if you don't know her (see #1), then you really don't know HOW she left, only your version of it...or someone else's. Once again, I am not trying to justify anything- that's not my job, I am trying to get you to take a better look at mercy and judgment (since we are throwing scripture around... it says: "mercy triumphs over judgment.") ...and, yes, it IS about judging.

To quote anonymous:
"I know I have forgiven her but..." If 'I have forgiven' is followed by a 'but' then you haven't....If it is surrounded by the finger pointing without knowing the WHOLE truth, then you haven't....

So much of what anonymous is saying is contradictory. This has absolutely NOTHING to do with sticking up for my sister, but EVERYTHING to do with desiring TRUTH - and if Pammy had been honest about the marital situation from WEEK 1 of the marriage, then we would not be having this anonymous conversation.

I must commend her on NOT telling you all what really happened in the 33 years - she is a much more loving person than I am. She is sparing much embarrassment. I am not as noble as she is...I probably would have made darn sure everyone knew.

Regarding the 'issues' with the blog. I know that Pam has at least appreciated that someone (even anonymous) is talking about the big pink elephant in the room. So many of those that professed to be her friends will only speak of the weather. Some friends. Well, at least this has revealed who her real friends are.

Anonymous, you of course, have every right to remain anonymous, but please think for yourself. I never really heard an answer to my questions in the first response I gave. I am still curious what you do with the scriptures and everything that Jesus taught regarding this whole subject. I would really like to know.

I remain,
NOT anonymous but VERY sincere,
Cindie - (Pam's sister)

Anonymous said...

Just to clarify, I am the person who wrote the last anonymous post. I have not written any of the others and was simply responding to all the blogs Pam has written and all the responses from other anonymous writers.

As for forgiveness, I have truely forgiven her. As for the "but" placed after that I was simply sharing how other people have been hurt through the blog.

Yes you are correct that if they have an issue with her then they should adress it them selves.

Everything aside, my reponse was not ment to attack,if that is how it came out. it was simply trying to share what the people here are going through.

I know so many people miss Pam but find it hard to reconnect with her after reading this blog. I was only trying to help Pam see that what she writes affects all that read it and to use clarification when speaking of the past.

I can see that no matter the response cindi or pam will not take it kindly no matter what is writen. so i bid you good by and will continue to speak well or pam and help those who she has left behind deal with the lose of their friend.

adoptionsforall said...

Anonymous, can you give some specific examples of how Pam's expression of her pain in her personal blog has hurt others? I re-read her blogs and simply cannot find examples of this.

Does ANYONE on that side of the country have ANY mercy or care one lick about the woman with the scarlet letter? Or will you all continue to cast stones?

I am utterly astonished at this so-called spirituality. If I didn't know MY God the way I do, I would NEVER have anything to do with the Jesus YOU serve...it certainly isn't the same loving, forgiving, merciful one who died to COVER my sins and free me from the harsh laws that I could not keep anyway.

Please remember the words I have written, because someday you will need mercy and all of your little boxes full of the wisdom of the Pharisees will not be of any use. The only thing you can turn to in order to sustain your spirit is the grace of Jesus.

You may interpret this any way you choose, but once again, please consider to love of Jesus.

There is a wonderful blog that I just started following, if you would like to know even more of the heart of things like this. Go to: http://sheddingtitlesforatestimony.blogspot.com/ and read it from the beginning. So many of the things written could have been my sister or millions of other women in this country to whom no mercy is shown by the very ones the Jesus showed mercy to.

Cindie

Shedding Titles for a Testimony said...

To Adoptionsforall: Thank you for your kind thoughts on my blog (sheddingtitles). It encourages my heart in the midst of horrible pain.

I so appreciate your comments about mercy and judgment. I, too, am a recovering judgaholic and embrace mercy with much more tenacity these days. I do not have the "Biblical" reasons for divorce (like pammy), but what I do have is a completely broken heart, soul, and spirit from years of financial and emotional abuse.

Be that as it may, we will not really know how our Jesus can use us...REALLY use us, until we share in His sufferings; however that sharing comes about. Whether it be by our choices (fleshly) or His choices for us...we still "get" to share.

I just pray that with this renewed testimony, it points the way back to the one that died for me.

To really understand mercy we MUST get our backsides off the judgment seat and give it back to the One worthy.

Pammy, I love you and appreciate you sharing your sufferings so that I may learn...however you came to them - flesh or spirit. Let the Lord judge which.

Your partner in looking for a testimony...
http://sheddingtitlesforatestimony.blogspot.com/